A Good Life...

“Your definition of a good life does not have to look like everyone else thinks it should. Whatever feels right for you, whatever aligns your inside with your outside, that's what you should spend your time doing.” ― G.G. Renee Hill

A couple months ago, I met an old friend. As we sat down and catch up on things, she commented that I have a good life. Her statement made me think. 

Then I met another friend who bemoaned that she was miserable because she is single. She said that she feels lonely and longs to have a husband and family of her own. Her statement made me think.

I have met many people from all different walks of life. Some are happy and some are not but one thing that I know is...being happy is a personal choice. Only we have the power and option to make ourselves happy. If we choose to be negative and miserable then nothing will make us happy and contented. 

" Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves"
Quran 13.11


No one has a perfect life. It may seems perfect and flawless from the outside but if you peer closer, you might see tiny cracks of imperfections. It's easier to judge from the outside. Everyone has problems. The only difference between them is how they solve their problems. I know a person who is terribly wealthy but is miserable because of an abusive husband. Another has status and recognition of peers but feels very lonely most of the time.I also know of a person who doesn't have much but has peace and tranquility in his heart. Another, living on a meagre salary but is contented and still able to support his family.

I believe that each one of us have our own journey to take. Some of us are blessed with looks, some with wealth, some with good health, some with good family relations, some with really good friends, some with good jobs. Every journey is different. Each journey has been specifically catered according to our needs and strength.

"Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity." 
Quran 2:286

Every blessings and gift that has been given to us comes with responsibilities. Remember Uncle Ben Parker from the 'Spiderman' movie, words of wisdom ? "With great power comes great responsibility". Oh how I love that quote!

I have met people who make the best of what they have and don't have. A couple who are very close friend of mine, have been married for many years but have yet to be blessed with a child, dedicate their time and effort for charity and to do good. 

Another friend who is still single, spends her time acquiring knowledge and imparting to others. She also spends her time traveling and doing charity. 

You see, not all of us are meant to be like Maryam, mother of Prophet Isa a.s. or Khadijah r.a., the beloved wife of Prophet Muhammad pbuh. Some of us perhaps are meant to be like Aisha r.a. 

You see, there is a reason as to why we are what we are. We each have our own purpose in life so find it!

"Did you think that We had created you in play (without any purpose),"
Quran 23:115

Don't moan on the things that you don't have as probably you are not meant to have it. Not having it could also be a blessing as you'll probably be given something better. Focus on what you have and how to make the best out of it. Remember......happiness is a personal choice....